I’ve been married now for 6.5 years. Not going to win any awards for longevity at this point but we’ve made is significantly longer than a lot of people I know.
There’s a point in your late twenties/early thirties when you look around at all the happily married couples you know and think how lucky you are that you’re surrounded by all these strong relationships because surely they’ll all last.
Then the first couple splits up. That makes you think “okay, they’re the fallen comrades. Surely the rest of us will survive.”
But slowly, steadily marriages disintegrate around you.
It’s disheartening really. I mean, if *they* can’t make it, how on earth will we???
This past year I’ve seen too many people I know going through separation and divorce. Many of our closest “couple friends” have hit Splitsville and now we have very few couples as friends.
My marriage is far from perfect. We have much that we need to work on but no matter how much I’d like to punch him with my ineffectual fists sometimes; I know for certain that I don’t want to split. I think that most, if not all, of our problems can be fixed. He thinks so too.
Will we make it for the long haul? I sure hope so.
Besides ..... I don’t know who else would put up with me!! :)
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I think a lot of it is determination, too. There are plenty of reasons that divorce becomes necessary, but a lot of times it seems like people haven't given it a REAL try, kwim?
My sister and my BFF got divorced in 2010...
This post really hits home for me. I thought we would all be married forever.
Not to mention bloggers...
Marriage is harder than I ever imagined it to be. Parenting is too. Not that I was ignorant, I just didn't expect it to be hard in the ways it has been. The unexpected hard bits is what gets me.
OK, after the last 10 days of clomid and menopur, I am ready to KILL my husband. His very existance is making me insane. I am just grateful that IVF doesn't involve sex, because if he had to touch me, I think I might kill him. But that being said, I know I am lucky to have a solid marriage. There are so many people who don't.
I think half of the battle is wanting it to work. I think many people take the easy way out and split. Marriage is hard work and it isn't always fun.
I, too, am constaly surrounded by failing marriages and it does make you wonder if you will fall with the majority.
I am too, by virtue of my IRL job, but it is all around us. A friend called me on the weekend to RSVP to an event and then asked if she could ask me a legal question.
Ugh. My heart broke for her.
Just wanted to say hello and hope that you are doing well.
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